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I have recently been re-watching one of my favorite TV shows called Scrubs. I love the characters, writing, comedy, creativity, and sentimental moments of the show. I like the show because I relate to the main character of the show Dr. John Dorian. JD is someone who cares deeply for his friends, family, and patients. He tends to daydream a lot. He also desires to make meaning out of everything in his life. He will always close the show with a monologue of something that he takes away from the episode. The last episode of the show is JD leaving his job. This is a big moment in his life because he spent the last eight years working at this hospital Sacred Heart. He has high expectations and hopes for his last day at Sacred Heart. He wants to feel appreciated, valued, and respected by his friends and colleagues. He shared his most insightful thoughts while he was walking out of the hospital for the last time.
“Things go rarely exactly the way you want them to, so sometimes you make due with whatever you can get. Endings are never easy; I always build them up so much in my head they can’t possibly live up to my expectations, and I just end up disappointed. I’m not even sure why it matters to me so much how things end here. I guess its because we all want to believe that what we do is very important, that people hang onto our every word, that they care what we think.”
I believe it is normal for people to yearn for praise and acceptance from their friends, family, and colleagues. We want to believe that our existence on this planet means something. It is a wonderful thing when your friends, family, and colleagues have great things to say about you. It means that you made a positive impact on their life. When we have high expectations for people and they don’t meet our expectations. Then we are bound to feel disappointment.
“Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you are doing” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11
God calls us to encourage and uplift one another. It is a good thing to praise our friends and family for their talents, gifts, and passions. Believers share a hope in Christ, so this bond is designed to make us stronger. It is important that we care and love one another well. Unfortunately our friends and family are going to disappoint us despite their best efforts. They are not perfect and there is no way for them to know all our thoughts, beliefs, and expectations.