How Do You Forgive Someone Who’s Hurt You?

This is a guest post by Shelly Hollon. Shelly says she’s a “domestic engineer, living the dream as a wife and mother, who loves to serve her Lord and family, while also being an incredible cook and baker.” You can connect with her on Facebook. If you are interested in writing a post for us, visit our Guest Post page. You can also view other guest posts by clicking here.

How To Forgive Someone Who's Hurt You?

When I was younger I did not have the best family life. My biological father was a physical and emotional abuser to my mother and the children. My mother finally had enough and filed for divorce.  What does that mean for the children?

Back in the 90’s, the state we lived in split custody down the middle while the custody hearings were going on. We spent half the school year with one parent then went the other half of the school year with the other parent.  As a 10 year old that was very difficult to understand. Going to two different schools was difficult too. Near the end of the trial it appeared my father was going to lose custody and would need to pay child support. He decided just to terminate his parental rights so he did not have to pay. This made me think he never wanted us to begin with and was only filing for custody to hurt my mother.

Flashing forward 20 years God had never been a person I had actively sought out. I had been put into some rough circumstances. Where was He when I really needed Him? Then I decided to let it all go and surrender to God and put Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. Maybe doing this I could finally hear from him WHY these bad things happened to me and my family. So, how do you forgive someone who’s hurt you?

How God Adopted Me

This is a guest post by Shelly Hollon. Shelly is a “domestic engineer, living the dream as a wife and mother, who loves to serve her Lord and family. She also is an incredible cook and baker.” You can connect with her on Facebook. If you are interested in writing a post for us, visit our Guest Post page. You can also view other guest posts by clicking here.

My husband and I were married in June 2003. By 2005 we decided it was time to start our family. After a year of not conceiving we decided to visit several of the top infertility doctors in DFW. No one had any answers. Unexplained infertility was our diagnosis. This is when my husband started talking about adoption. I was pretty adamant that we would do this our way. I even said on multiple occasions “we can do this on our own.”

We would say we were Christian to people who asked, but we were not living a Christ centered life. After one of my husbands co-workers told him about our home church, 121 Community Church, we decided to check it out in 2009. The service centered around this passage…

“Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were making an appeal through us; we beg you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.” – 2 Corinthians 5:20

I was struggling with the infertility. It seemed that everyone else was able to conceive a child and I was envious of people who were pregnant. After this service I knew that this was where I needed to be. It was as if God was speaking straight through our preacher to me.